Monday, June 28, 2010


No wonder I’m fat- even at 5 months only!


Even tho this is quite the routine before I was pregnant.. but still kan?


Every morning (almost la…) I eat nasi lemak, (unless kak intan jual nasi goring then I’ll have nasi goring for breakfast)..

Then, after the nasi lemak and no serious meeting or any other exciting task to do…I start to mengantuk.

After unsuccessfully membuka mata (before pregnancy, the mengantuk wasn’t this bad…) and no where to lelapkan kejap… I go downstairs for a coco loco- GJ, with cream of course! And lots of chocs (kata loco…).


Malam tadi, I had 2 pinggan nasi panas with pekasam (a nice pekasam does this to me- I can actually tambah for the 3rd time tapi takut nanti I woke up not recognizing myself).


And, since chocolates sentiasa ade kat fridge (for bribing the kids actually…)… whenever I have a craving for something sweet, I dig inside the choc container.


Arghhhh. I have to stop this. Kang, penat je x makan obimin (camne ntah eja…). Anak tetap besau because of my diet. Hish! Aisyah stop rite now!


I think I shud stock up fruits in stead in the fridge kan? Apple ke, pear ke,.. (ohhh boring nye options!)


Friday, June 25, 2010

pregnancy update

I’m having constipation. Argh. Menci.


Although, I noticed that I don’t eat as much as when I was 5 month pregnant with Busyra, or did I, abah? I hope I don’t gain weight that much.


But I do need what ever I eat to leave my body. Aduhh sakit bonts aku nih. Ulang alik ke mr T but nothing satisfying pun!


PS. What a ugly post~~ theee heee heee




Wednesday, June 23, 2010


Aku adalah antara org yg maleh nak dgr sangat propaganda2 in the internet. To me, internet is used to share and spread knowledge. Opening up the world for everyone. Definitely, ramai yg abuse the service.


I am a muslim but I dare say that I do not believe in such big fuss over coca cola to be la Muhammad and la mekah. Yes, the drink is not healthy for mankind but to that extend?


I just received an email from a co-worker on CROCS. Wtf? Me and her- we have no grudge against another. (I don’t usually have any grudge with my officemates cause I just don’t care enough about them..) anyway, she definitely know that I wear crocs to work. I walk a lot. There. Then this email came and its about the lambang to be lambang Allah. Supposedly muslims are wearing them on the tapak of the shoe, as tho memijak Allah? You gotta be kidding me? That too? Some jewish/ Christian way to disgrace islam?

I am definitely not that of a secular nor I am a pious muslim. But I am a muslim, loving my god, Allah. I do not wear crocs and damned now as tho I am memijak Allah.


I just don’t get it why some just get tooo far when it comes to this sort of stuff. You don’t know for real. If it is true then I don’t think Allah marah kat kita but to those intentionally disgracing Him. But, to doubt every single thing what the west created and to turn it into a religious war.. that aint right.


Why do we have to spread hate?

Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, love, love, that is the soul of genius.-MOZART-




books again.. and the reason i lost my husband :(

Hahaha… ikan is now unofficially not a fan of this blog anymore.. reason being? Because I always talk about books. (babe, you should notice by now that you are more than involved with me when it comes to these not-your-kinda-interest books…) Kata2 nak pujuk sang suami- you have to know that when I write those reviews, I always have you in my mind, as I’ve you in my mind when I read them. I KNOW FOR A FACT YOU ARE NOT LIKE IAN- marah x tentu pasal when the problem was his fault in the first place! But, when the heroes are being kind, I always smile because my ikan is kind. X romantic but very kind. ;)


These books… although yes, generally men hates romance books, but I guess it doesn’t hurt for you guys to read them and if you are up for it, discover what makes a your ladies kepang. I do believe that you guys would love it too when suddenly your wife acts as though she was like when you first flirt and that initial months after marriage tu.. kan? Ke aku je?Just keep in mind that, don’t go belittling the over exaggerated heroes –but focus on how deeply these heroes love the heroine that makes us ladies love them. J hahaha kalau ikan berjaya membaca hatta 1 bijik buku JM, maka aku adalah pompuan paling hebat di dunia! hahah


Moving along..


Anyway, my current book is also historical heheh but not romance nor it is fiction. Its called ‘Medal of Honor Heroes’. Basically they’re true short stories of recipient of the Medal of Honors of the US army/ marine you get the idea- during WW1 and US civil war times. During the day, I will be reading it, at night, it’ll be ikan’s turn. So I guess… I’ll be getting my husband back here soon?

I’ll may be write a bit on US civil war later.. maybe.



Monday, June 21, 2010

JM- Something Wonderful

My latest JM book finished- Something Wonderful.


I actually don’t like the hero that much, but not hating him like Ian Thornton in Almost Heaven. However, I understand why he’s an S in the first place. But I didn’t feel excited reading this book. To me, it’s kinda lukewarm romantic story. I guess this is how other JM readers felt about Night Whispers, after having experienced all of her other books. I do however liked the reconciliation part but thought the ending could be elaborated further. The Epilogue sucks, compared to WML’s epilogue.. this is definitely a 1 out of 10. Tapi, overall cerita is ok. Oohh.. I did cry though.. bile Jordan realized Alex’s life was terrible, masa she was in coma,  and when he gave the heart shaped lockets. Baguih. Romantic. If it wasn’t for Almost Heaven and the fact that I know she’ll lived, I wasn’t that sad (as compared to kalau I didn’t know- even may have suspected due to the HEA ending for ALL JM books…) when Alex was shot in the head. Satu lagi.. rase nak tampar je para investigators yg diupah oleh hero2 AH and SW. x serupa investigator langsung yg kunonnye diupah extravagantly. Pastu, dah tau buat keje teruk, x pulak derang kene apa2 kan? Reprimand ke, suh die minta maaf kat mangsa ke.. cam contemporary books she wrote, the FBI involved akan rase ashamed and explained their mistake. At least sedar la yang die screwed up.


There. Maleh nak komen pasal my last 2 books from JM- Once and Always & Remember When. Bile ntah nak beli.



Friday, June 18, 2010

JM lagi. and cuti sekolah bebudak nih.

So… I bought another 2 JM.. Something Wonderful and Almost Heaven last week. So much for ‘I want to stay away from bookstore—and I’m only going to continue my phase 2 next month… konnonn!’


Anyway, review for those books (to be fair as I did with the phase 1 JMs…) :p,


1-       Double Standard

Like I told you, I read this book because Judith said that it was based on a true story of her father. Ade sorang minah yg hampeh dalam the book (how hampeh? She-a wealthy girl abandoned her own son (of with an average guy) and later buat dek, some more made him as he was her enemy when she remarried a wealthy guy even though the boy is soo cute and tried to ‘bribe’ her into coming back for him buy buying her an expensive gift (from his allowances- when he was 5!). In stead of even showing gratitude, she shoved the gift away to her maid. The boy had grown up never to ever buy a present to single female ever. That boy, was Judith McNaught’s father. Sedih gile! The story was actually about a love affair of the boy (now a guy definitely- a very handsome and successful one that is, naturally…). The story- It was too over the top to me tapi hell, loved the book! A bit of humor especially when Nicky made him absent from a supposedly very important international trade meeting because of Lauren. Twice! That was funny. And lovely ending, like always.


2-       Kingdom of Dreams

A VERY FUNNY ROMANCE story! Nasib baik the book is thin so, I hadn’t had to sleep at 4am for this book… but it was such a nice love story. Honestly, as for now, Royce is my bestest male character ever. Baik and loving giler. Not to mentioned loyal and forgiving. Hehehe.. I read this book don’t know how many times after finishing it the first time. Sangat light and entertaining. Definitely my most favorite historical- medieval novel. I don’t think I’ll be bored of this one. I love the humor but there’s sadness and patriotism too, all of them shook my emotions. Not to the terrible extent like WML and Perfect but almost to that level, which I prefer actually.


3-       Almost Heaven

What a sad story. Aku tak tahan ngan kehidupan minah heroine nih. I am definitely not as strong as her. I cant even imagine I am slightly to have her kind of spirit, courage, and forgiveness. And I hate the male character- Ian Thornton. Aku rase I see me more as Alex in this book- mind you I haven’t read Something Wonderful yet. The tragedies- gile aa! Menyampah ade la aku ngan cerita buku nih because of turbulence of emotions it granted me, even if a good ending. Ok lah, ok lah! I liked the book- proof is because that I just finished it on Wednesday and I already had re-read it twice! Hehehe only part yg best je. Yg happy2 je. Yg bab marah2 and ‘bodohnye-bodohnye Ian!’ I skipped. I really don’t like Ian Thornton. However, I did read and read the reconciliation part over and over again.. hahah just to wet my eyes! Tapi even so, rase nak lempang je si Ian tu. Bladi ignorant and kunon macho aa. Pastu cam perasan2 ayam. Pheh! Hehehe over excited plak! :P. not until the last reconciliation tu I finally inclined to forgive him, but not entirely 100%. Tahan climax kunon nak minta maaf. Piidaaaahh! Not everything is about sex u know! Hehehe emo lagi :P


Another book to read (kunonnye next month tu…) this weekend is Something Wonderful. Hopefully it’s a light story, even tho I doubt it much. The main characters- Jordan & Alex was mentioned (and played a big part jugakla…) in Almost Heaven. So, I guess you should read SW before AH.



Kesian my kids that me and ikan didn’t managed to take even as much as 1 day leave for the school holiday. Initial plan was that the kids balik kedah seminggu and balik seremban seminggu. Camne ntah x jadi… lagipun, one weekend, org2 seremban gi Singapore, so we decided we’re gonna hang around at Sunway… lagipun, ade voucher dok kat Sunway Suites. Ok lah. I expected worst, it turned out to be a very delightful stay! Nyeh nyeh..


On Saturday, we went to Sunway Lagoon.. btw, busyra was having fever since Monday actually and ikan hesitated in letting her play in the sun and pool. Busyra, kalau demam sangat panas and merisaukan… (says all parents with high fever kids heheh). Tapi, sampai je kat pool area, Busyra la paling sakan skali kan? Dgn pampers masih di bontotnye itu, di gi terjun je masuk pool dalam! Nasib baik ade floaters kat lengan tu. And then, after we had tired ourself at the other 2 parks- baru la sedar yg si Busyra kecik nih telah sembuh dr her fever! Gish adik! You needed excitement and fresh air rupanye! Hehehe

Aqish seemed to have fun too.. even towards the end die da lemah gemalai dah. By the time nak dinner she was a bit cranky.. and she had Rocky (yg choclate batang2 tu..) for her dinner. Walhal, adik siap makan macam2 lagi. Nasik la, fries la, sotong  & mushroom tepung la, abih dish lat manhattan FM, adik makan half of mama’s (corrected: memang beli ut kadik sebenarnye…) classic cinnabon. Hebat x anak mama yg sorang nih? Heheheh tu x kire dah kasi susu kat kedai makan tadi tu. Hahahah busyra busyra! U’re soo kiut.

Sunway Pyramid tu die buat cam playground die plak tu.. sukati je nak jalan sensorang kat depan.

Cume, sian aqish pulak sebab she had picked up some fever that night and the day after. Sib baik kakak nih rajin makan ubat. Cepat je sembuh. J


Nak letak gambar but dalam phone ikan. So.. Nampak gayanya memang x dapat lah nak upload… L




Thursday, June 10, 2010

sessi marah.

I’m soo pissed off ngan org yg moody pastu nak keluarkan kemarahan tu kat org lain. Bladihel gile. U deal with your own hormone man! I’m not ur bladi waif!




I found this article in the net and thought that it’s worth to share. Even though that it’s based on a mat Salleh marriage and relationship, try to take the gist of it. Make true sense and I like it.



How to make your husband happy for the rest of your married lives

It would be fairly safe to say that most wives or women about to tie the knot would put making their husbands happy at the top of their life ambitions. Most wives would also claim to know what makes them happy, which begs the questions; Why do 50% of all marriages end in divorce? And why are so many husbands unfaithful? The problem is that it will take 20 years of marriage to really understand what will make your husband happy and him, most of his life, if ever.

You won't find all the answers here, the truth lies within the relationship that is called a marriage and hopefully you already have a good understanding of how your husband ticks. This page is more about getting you to ask the right questions and come up with the correct answers and help you understand more about your relationship.

So what is happiness? Are you happy right now? Is your husband happy? What makes you happy? What makes your husband happy?

We will address these questions later but let's look at the situation right now. We can only talk in generalities because your husband is an individual and all men are not the same. However, it is important to understand that men and women apart from the obvious differences are not so very different. You both have feelings, you are both capable of love, you both want to be loved, you want many of the same things and nowadays most men and women have a number of similar interests.

Little wonder then that the spouses in most successful marriages consider themselves to be best friends as well as lovers.

You are about to get married or maybe you have been married for a while and realise that your marriage is not progressing as you had hoped. Whatever your situation, we need to go back to before your wedding day and the lead up to your marriage. Although we are talking about your husband, much of this will also apply to you.

Your husband has chosen you out of the billions of other women in the world to spend the rest of his life with. As much as he loves you, certain doubts will begin to form in the lead up to the wedding, shortly after or even during the service. This is only natural, it is the most major life changing decision he will have ever made. It is not his love for you that he is questioning; he will be questioning his own capabilities and insecurities.

Despite the rise of feminism and "Women's Lib", men still see themselves as the person responsible for their wives care, safety and protection. Men were always the hunter gatherers and warriors, it is deep in their DNA and psyche and it is likely to take another millennium before this is bred out of them. It would be just as true that women feel safe and secure in their arms of their husbands so things haven't changed that much either from a woman's point of view.


People might talk about marriage being an equal partnership but your husband, despite what he says or believes he thinks will now have the weight of responsibility on his shoulders. He might not understand his feelings of insecurity, he might not even realise he is having them, but deep down he will believe that his job is to provide for you, put a roof over your head, protect you and one day, possibly have the added responsibility of having children. The pressures will be enormous and he will no doubt be questioning, sublimely or subconsciously, if he is up to the job.

He will most likely have ambitions or dreams to give you a big house, nice car, holidays and the sort of life everybody dreams of. He will be questioning his abilities to provide the type of life he believes you deserve and whilst you would be quite happy living in a caravan in a field so long as you are together, he like most men will look at the lifestyles of other more successful married couples and be asking himself if he is good enough.

You shouldn't try and curb his ambitions, you should share them but also help to manage them by both of you setting timescales and managing your finances. As more arguments between married couples are caused by debt problems than anything else, it is important that your ambitions do not get you into debt. The pleasure of buying something you both want will be far and away outweighed by the grief of the money problems it will cause. We all like to receive gifts but it will be down to you to help manage your joint spending. You cannot offload this responsibility. By being patient and waiting, you will get everything you want without the tears.


Getting married means you will have had your last first kiss. That tentative exciting and exhilarating moment that we have all experienced. Remember kissing your husband for the first time? The first few dates where you were waiting and he was late? The first time you made love? The moments of insecurity. Was it OK? Did you please him? Did you satisfy him? Were you the best? Well, that is exactly what he was thinking.

It was those moments of spontaneity, the insecurities, the early fears and worries that made the whole affair so exciting almost painful at times, but such a sweet pain that it was a strange pleasure. Getting married is sometimes a relief, a release from the anxieties you felt in the early weeks and months of your relationship. You have got your man and now you can relax. NO YOU CANNOT.

Many couples, having tied the knot sit back with a feeling of contentment. They have now got what they really wanted out of life and can now relax and enjoy the rest of their lives together.

Contentment is not the same as happiness. Contentment is not a feeling of euphoria, it is not exciting, it doesn't make you laugh or cry, it is not a sense of heightened pleasure and it doesn't stimulate the senses. Whilst contentment is boredom, it is boring and this is where so many marriages go wrong.

Marriage usually makes sex more accessible. Evening meal, do the washing up, watch a bit of television, then off to bed for a probably prearranged session of love making. For the first few weeks, months, even years, this maybe alright, but most couples will settle in to a routine where sex is simply something they do as a ritual. He will most likely do it because he needs the physical relief, you will most likely comply because you always have.

What happened to sex in the back of the car, the romantic dinners, the spontaneity, the stolen moments, the feeling of apprehension, the quickies in the most unlikely of places, the romantic weekends and the passion?

The back seat of the car has child seats and is covered in crisps, the romantic dinners are now a takeaway pizza and a bottle of red, spontaneity is getting a cup of tea made for you when you didn't expect it, stolen moments are when you sit down for ten minutes to read a magazine, feelings of apprehension are waiting for Eastenders to start, a quickie is dashing down to the supermarket to get some milk, a romantic weekend is watching the Sunday afternoon weepy; and as for the passion, that's him watching the match and you having a bar of chocolate.

Wives will argue, they have the children to look after, a house to run, often a full or part time job and they are tired. Yes they probably are. But aren't these the same women who had full time jobs before they got married, probably had their own flat, went out every weekend and most week nights burning the candle at both ends and made love most of the night before dragging themselves off to work the next day?

Aren't these the same women who always got showered and did their makeup and hair before they went on a date, made sure they wore sexy matching underwear, even went to the trouble of putting on stockings and suspenders because they knew their boyfriends found them sexy? Didn't these same women flirt, tease and do everything they could to turn their men on because it made them feel great to know they were lighting fires of desire?

Now the husband come home from work, his wife hasn't showered all day, hasn't done her makeup or hair, is wearing a house suit with marmite and jam stains down the front and regales her husband that he will have to fix the sink because little Johnny has poured glue down the plughole. Husband if he is lucky gets a kiss on the cheek and a cup of tea.

As for sex. That now falls between "you've got to be joking; after the day I've had." or "God is that all you think of, give it a rest, I'm exhausted." or "OK but make it quick, I need to sleep."

This is not what he signed up to when he got married. He expected you to put on a bit of weight when you had the kids. He knew when you gave up work that he would have to work longer hours to support you all; and he expected his sex drive to diminish as he entered middle age. What he didn't expect was to get sidelined, he thought you enjoyed the sex as much as him and whilst the fast food dinners you now cook because you haven't got the time or inclination to prepare him a proper meal have taken their toll a bit, he thought you would still find him interesting and not lose interest in yourself or him.

This why you see so many adverts on singles sites where women are looking for a new partner that must be honest, because their husband went off with his tail between his legs because he no longer felt loved or desired. Have a look at any dating site and try and find any female looking for a male that doesn't stipulate that he has to be honest. Nigh on impossible.

Which brings me back to my unofficial wedding vows. Not that I am condoning infidelity but most husbands lies and infidelity start some years into a marriage. Whilst his wife lied at the alter when she said:

"I will stand by you no matter what happens throughout the rest of my life. I will love you more each day, come what may, I will support you when you need me, I will love you because of your faults and not despite of them, I will forgive you when you hurt me, I will never knowingly do anything to hurt you, I will consider your every needs, I will face every problem beside you and wherever possible take those problems away and I will ask for nothing in return except your love and to know you are happy, because all I want and need in life is to spend the rest of my life with you."

When I started talking about the secret of a happy marriage I said you have to treat every day as if it were more important than the last. This included your husband. All men have needs both physical and emotional and it is essential that you meet those needs in order to keep him happy.

If you are about to get married, you need to take this information on board. Getting married is not the end, it is the start and you will need to keep reminding yourself about how happy and why you were so happy before you got married.


My comments:


I remembered being guilty of the paragraphs in red. That was after aqish was born, I felt content with my life, and I remembered all I cared about was my daughter and the house. My ikan is there for me emotionally, physically too but it wasn’t as exciting as our first months of mariage. What I felt important was that the house has to be in order for me to really enjoy the night, which was very seldom..  And, I remembered those days, we always fought. On the littlest things.


Yes, I am embarrased to blurt this all but I think it is a very good advice, i.e. to keep the ‘kepang’ ß my school mates know what I mean here… even after some time of mariage. Bukan nak kate my marriage is boring, its just I found it to be soo true, now that I am so excited to bring back the romance back into our mariage. I left contentment behind me. I hope it last. Da x mau take my hubs for granted. He’s there like when I was first infatuated by him. Eager to tell him what a day I had, his day.


I remembered talking to Elin on this- she’s getting married (I didn’t spoil your surprise, did i?). Anyway, I think it is something really good to ponder. I like it now when I acted as though during dating dulu2. to put an effort of going out. KESIMPULAN die adalah- don’t ever feel the contentment. Be exciting. And, I think I read some where, that in order to make your marriage happy, make sure your purpose of marriage is to make your spouse happy with expecting nothing in return. Ikhlas lah kirenye. I agree to this, eventhough sometimes it may be harder than it sound, but just keep in mind, always.


I am trying my best to.

Monday, June 7, 2010

belated mother's day wishes...

I received this this morning. Apparently aqish’s school program of visiting to the post office last Thursday was to post their mother’s day card to the mommies. How sweet.


I remembered aqish brought back some paper cuttings on the week of mothers day last time, but she never said they were doing any sort of ‘cards or crafts’ for mothers.. J how sweet to receive a letter in the mail box.. from my daughter…


I never thot that the day I hang my kids’ drawings- master pieces is today. I always thot that it’ll be when I am at least 30+. Eh, wait. I am already 30. LOL.



Friday, June 4, 2010

i lost.

I lost to my own battle. I bought 2 JM books this lunch and planning to read on my way back. Kompem habis during the weekends.

I seriously want to rest at least a month before I go back reading JM. But as I was reading an interview with JM on double standards, I got to have it. Based on a true story- her mom’s.


However, to take advantage of the promotional price, I had to take 2:- Double Standards & Kingdom of Dreams.


Nak berenti wehhh.. I want to look for Clapton & Pattie Boyd’s autobiography. really



Books again.. end of part 1 :)

Back to my JM books- at last! I have finished all of the JM that I bought. I am soo relieved sebab I was soo addicted. Nak tau cerita nye pasal, I sometimes slept at 4am.. and the next day I went to work! Aiyaahh~~~


Anyway. After my last review on Until You, I wanted to write on Paradise tapi I was in a bad shape ari tu. So here it is.


1)       Paradise

Macam biasa, I loved this book! This is the book yg I slept until 4am just to make sure that when I sleep, the story must be at a tenang state. Mind you this book is really thick. But at last, I am very satisfied. Loved the husband & wife relationship. Very cute. And loved Meredith sebab she actually stood up for her man. Really love woman with strong character! Loved Matt too. Sebab he was a gentleman indeed, except when the salah faham tu lah but its still nice.


2)       Perfect

Another good book. Johanna suggested me to read this one after Paradise sebab Matt was mentioned in it. This book made me cry sebab Julie, the heroine, was illiterate. Kisah die masa childhood tu really made me cry. What a nice kidnapping story~


3)       Every breath you take

I wasn’t in the best mood when I begin reading this book, so basically I wasn’t impressed that much. Matt and Zach was mentioned in this book and I love the father & son relationship. The story—not so much. Maybe sebab JM cerita panjang sangat on their flirting & romance kat Anguila island tu kot. I don’t know. It didn’t leave me with a ‘ohh bestnye!’ feeling. But its not a bad book. You want bad (JM books, I mean…) you go and read Tender Triumph.


So, I had officially finished all my 1st phase of JM Marathon, consisting:-

1-       Night Whisper

2-       Someone to watch over me

3-       Tender Triumph

4-       Whitney, My Love

5-       Until You

6-       Paradise

7-       Perfect

8-       Every Breath You Take


Next marathon, I am planning to buy:

1-       Kingdom of Dreams

2-       Once and Always

3-       Something Wonderful

4-      Almost Heaven

5-       Double Standards

6-       Remember When


Maka, when I finished the 6th book, I will graduate as JM maniac fan. Heheh. Pastu, time pantang leh baca semua balik! Wuhuuu~~

But, for the time being.. I really hope I can get myself far away from any bookstores in this near future. Penat membaca. Need air. hehehe



Wednesday, June 2, 2010

of my emotional roller coaster- balme it on the pregnancy hormones

To my own embarrassment, yes, I am declaring to everyone reading on my current emotional state.


I am helplessly in a romantic mood since the week I found out I was pregnant. Betul, x tipu. Adding to the JM books I’ve been reading, bertambah lah lagi mood romantic and hopelessly in love (cam rase time courting2 dulu…) with my ikan.


Anyway, to blurt out everything might embarrass me (and ikan) a lot more, I’ll go straight to the point why I am eager to write today.


oo… sebelum tu, a bit of background from our courting days… to cut a long story short, our song during those days (and sampai sekarang-) is Wonderful Tonight, by Eric Clapton.


Anyway, during ikan’s family day at Agrotek last weekend, we were having our dinner and suddenly the Song was on. Aduhhhh, what a feeling that night! (plus the fact that I’m in this oh-so-romantic mood).


When we returned home, I insisted ikan to download the song as I didn’t want the mood to be over. And it brought back sweet memories from the past. Hehehehh.. gile lame!


So, here I am listening to Wonderful Tonight in the office, dah la tengah sangap nak buat keje.. heheh. So, like what I did with JM books, I googled for the story behind it. Shameful of me sebab baru la ni nak study our song. Anyway, back to the story I want to tell you about. During my search, I found out about the muse of the song- Pattie Boyd. And I started to read about her. And now how I feel JM shud write a story on her. Hehehe lame, lame… but, honestly, I truly feel that the story of Pattie Boyd is a beautiful love story.


The strong love for her 1st husband- George Harrison and her passionate affair and subsequently her matrimonial commitment to Eric Clapton. How Eric loved her and to my personal opinion, screwed his own life because of that love. Kesian yg sangat to Pattie that she had fertility problems that ended her marriage with eric and aku x suka Eric Clapton sebab he was soo screwed that he eventually screwed her life too. Tapi, at the end, I still think they somehow still love each other and it would be nice if the screwed eric can apologize to her and get back together. He obviously loved her.


Tapi, reading what I read, I felt sorry for Pattie that it looks as though ‘some’ were blaming her or in a more polite way of saying that all the wreckage she faced was because of her.


1-       the break up of her marriage to her 1st husband. She loved him so much she said. But he later got so fascinated by the mystic religion, some hindu related religion that, made him changed during the course of their marriage. Apart from idolizing Krishna ke sapa ntah yang ade banyak concubines- that led him to a lot of adulteries, I guess.. But, what I pitied her is because SHE was the one who introduced him to the Mahayeshi something..


2-       this is pulak my very personal opinion, that she made Eric the way he is right now- the screwed eric. He didn’t get involved in heroin when he met Pattie. He was still straight when he flirt with her (while she was still married to George), and when he wrote Layla. He did however, threatened her that if she doesn’t leave her husband for him (actually, time ni, derang xde affair pun lagi. Eric flirting like mad je…) that he will resort to heroin. And, she blew him off. And, he took the heroin and 3 years after that kot baru la she left the husband for sleeping with one of her bestest friend, to later moving in with eric. Tapi, to me, it was maybe too late sebab he is already being destroyed by the heroin and all.


I believe she is a very strong woman.


I’m gonna try and look for her book- Wonderful Today- George, Eric and Me. I know it’s a wonderful story. (p.s. aku suka tul ketinggalan zaman pasal books nih. Her book came out in 2007 :P)



Tuesday, June 1, 2010

something to share, on woman

I got this from Chot. Thanks again chot! (she gave me this to comfort me of my childish kesedihan- I’m over it! Really!)
anyway, girls… I don’t know what to say. Glad to be a women- a wife & mother.



Renungan buat insan yang bergelar wanita. Ketahuilah betapa istimewanya dan bertuahnya menjadi

wanita. Bagi kaum lelaki, hormatilah kaum wanita yang bergelar ibu dan isteri. Berikut adalah himpunan

hadis-hadis yang berkenaan.


1. Doa wanita lebih maqbul daripada lelaki kerana sifat penyayang yang lebih kuat daripada lelaki. Ketika ditanya kepada Rasulallah s.a.w. akan hal tersebut, jawab baginda : "Ibu lebih penyayang daripada bapa dan doa orang yang penyayang tidak akan sia-sia."


2. Wanita yang solehah (baik) itu lebih baik daripada 1,000 orang lelaki yang tidak soleh.


3. Seorang wanita solehah adalah lebih baik daripada 70 orang wali.


4. Seorang wanita solehah adalah lebih baik daripada 70 lelaki soleh.


5. Barang siapa yang menggembirakan anak perempuannya, darjatnya seumpama orang yang sentiasa menangis kerana takutkan Allah s.w.t. dan orang yang takutkan Allah s.w.t. akan diharamkan api neraka ke atas tubuhnya.


6. Barang siapa yang membawa hadiah (barang makanan dari pasar ke rumah) lalu diberikan kepada keluarganya, maka pahalanya seperti bersedekah. Hendaklah mendahulukan anak perempuan daripada anak lelaki. Maka barangsiapa yang menyukakan anak perempuan seolah-olah dia memerdekakan anak Nabi Ismail a.s.


7. Tidaklah seorang wanita yang haid itu, kecuali haidnya merupakan kifarat (tebusan) untuk dosadosanya yang telah lalu, dan apabila pada hari pertama haidnya membaca "Alhamdulillahi'alaa Kulli Halin Wa Astaghfirullah“ (Segala puji bagi Allah dalam segala keadaan dan aku mohon ampun kepada Allah dari segala dosa.); maka Allah menetapkan dia bebas dari neraka dan dengan mudah melalui siratul mustaqim yang aman dari seksa, bahkan Allah Ta'ala mengangkatnya ke atas darjat,

seperti darjatnya 40 orang mati syahid, apabila dia selalu berzikir kepada Allah selama haidnya.


8. Wanita yang tinggal bersama anak-anaknya akan tinggal bersama aku (Rasulullah s.a.w.) di dalam syurga.


9. Barang siapa mempunyai tiga anak perempuan atau tiga saudara perempuan atau dua anak perempuan atau dua saudara perempuan, lalu dia bersikap ehsan dalam pergaulan dengan mereka dan mendidik mereka dengan penuh rasa taqwa serta bertanggungjawab, maka baginya adalah syurga.


10. Daripada Aisyah r.ha. "Barang siapa yang diuji dengan sesuatu daripada anak-anak perempuannya, lalu dia berbuat baik kepada mereka, maka mereka akan menjadi penghalang baginya daripada api neraka."


11. Syurga itu di bawah telapak kaki ibu.


12. Apabila memanggil akan engkau dua orang ibubapamu, maka jawablah panggilan ibumu dahulu.


13. Wanita yang taat berkhidmat kepada suaminya akan tertutup pintu-pintu neraka dan terbuka pintu-pintu syurga. Masuklah dari mana-mana pintu yang dia kehendaki dengan tidak dihisab.


14. Wanita yang taat akan suaminya, semua ikan-ikan di laut, burung di udara, malaikat di langit, matahari dan bulan, semuanya beristighfar baginya selama mana dia taat kepada suaminya dan meredhainya. (serta menjaga sembahyang dan puasanya)


15. Aisyah r.ha. berkata "Aku bertanya kepada Rasulullah s.a.w. siapakah yang lebih besar haknya

terhadap wanita ?" Jawab baginda, "Suaminya". "Siapa pula berhak terhadap lelaki?" Jawab

Rasulullah s.a.w. "Ibunya".


16. Seorang wanita yang apabila mengerjakan solat lima waktu, berpuasa wajib sebulan (Ramadhan), memelihara kehormatannya serta taat kepada suaminya, maka pasti akan masuk syurga dari pintu mana saja yang dia kehendaki.


17. Tiap perempuan yang menolong suaminya dalam urusan agama, maka Allah s.w.t. memasukkan dia ke dalam syurga lebih dahulu daripada suaminya(10,000 tahun).


18. Apabila seseorang perempuan mengandung janin dalam rahimnya, maka beristighfarlah para malaikat untuknya. Allah s.w.t. mencatatkan baginya setiap hari dengan 1,000 kebaikan dan menghapuskan darinya 1,000 kejahatan.


19. Dua rakaat solat dari wanita yang hamil adalah lebih baik daripada 80 rakaat solat wanita yang tidak hamil.


20. Wanita yang hamil akan dapat pahala berpuasa pada siang hari.


21. Wanita yang hamil akan dapat pahala beribadat pada malam hari.


22. Apabila seseorang perempuan mulai sakit hendak bersalin, maka Allah s.w.t. mencatatkan baginya pahala orang yang berjihad pada jalan Allah s.w.t.


23. Wanita yang bersalin akan mendapat pahala 70 tahun solat dan puasa dan setiap kesakitan pada satu uratnya Allah mengurniakan satu pahala haji.


24. Apabila seseorang perempuan melahirkan anak, keluarlah dia daripada dosa-dosa seperti keadaan ibunya melahirkannya.


25. Sekiranya wanita mati dalam masa 40 hari selepas bersalin, dia akan dikira sebagai mati syahid.


26. Wanita yang memberi minum susu kepada anaknya daripada badannya (susu badan) akan dapat satu pahala daripada tiap-tiap titik susu yang diberikannya.


27. Jika wanita menyusui anaknya sampai cukup tempoh (2 1/2 tahun), maka malaikat-malaikat di langit akan khabarkan berita bahawa syurga wajib baginya.


28. Jika wanita memberi susu badannya kepada anaknya yang menangis, Allah akan memberi pahala satu tahun solat dan puasa.


29. Wanita yang habiskan malamnya dengan tidur yang tidak selesa kerana menjaga anaknya yang sakit akan mendapat pahala seperti membebaskan 20 orang hamba.


30. Wanita yang tidak cukup tidur pada malam hari kerana menjaga anak yang sakit akan diampunkan oleh Allah akan seluruh dosanya dan bila dia hiburkan hati anaknya Allah memberi 12 tahun pahala ibadat.


31. Apabila seorang wanita mencucikan pakaian suaminya, maka Allah mencatatkan baginya seribu kebaikan, dan mengampuni dua ribu kesalahannya, bahkan segala sesuatu yang disinari sang suria akan meminta keampunan baginya, dan Allah mengangkatkannya seribu darjat untuknya.


32. Seorang wanita yang solehah lebih baik daripada seribu orang lelaki yang tidak soleh, dan seorang wanita yang melayani suaminya selama seminggu, maka ditutupkan baginya tujuh pintu neraka dan dibukakan baginya lapan pintu syurga, yang dia dapat masuk dari pintu mana saja tanpa dihisab.


33. Mana-mana wanita yang menunggu suaminya hingga pulanglah ia, disapukan mukanya, dihamparkan duduknya atau menyediakan makan minumnya atau merenung ia pada suaminya atau memegang tangannya, memperelokkan hidangan padanya, memelihara anaknya atau memanfaatkan hartanya pada suaminya kerana mencari keredhaan Allah, maka disunatkan baginya akan tiap-tiap kalimah ucapannya, tiap-tiap langkahnya dan setiap renungannya pada suaminya sebagaimana memerdekakan seorang hamba. Pada hari Qiamat kelak, Allah kurniakan Nur hingga tercengang wanita mukmin semuanya atas  kurniaan rahmat itu. Tiada seorang pun yang sampai ke mertabat itumelainkan Nabi-nabi.


34. Tidakkan putus ganjaran dari Allah kepada seorang isteri yang siang dan malamnya menggembirakan suaminya.


35. Wanita yang melihat suaminya dengan kasih sayang dan suaminya melihat isterinya dengan kasih sayang akan di pandang Allah dengan penuh rahmat.


36. Jika wanita melayan suami tanpa khianat akan mendapat pahala 12 tahun solat.


37. Wanita yang melayan dengan baik suami yang pulang ke rumah di dalam keadaan letih akan medapat pahala jihad.


38. Jika wanita memicit suami tanpa disuruh akan mendapat pahala 7 tola emas dan jika wanita memicit suami bila disuruh akan mendapat pahala tola perak.


39. Dari Hazrat Muaz : Mana-mana wanita yang berdiri atas dua kakinya membakar roti untuk suaminya hingga muka dan tangannya kepanasan oleh api, maka diharamkan muka dan tangannya dari bakaran api neraka.


40. Thabit Al Banani berkata : Seorang wanita dari Bani Israel yang buta sebelah matanya sangat baik khidmatnya kepada suaminya. Apabila ia menghidangkan makanan dihadapan suaminya, dipegangnya pelita sehingga suaminya selesai makan. Pada suatu malam pelitanya kehabisan sumbu, maka diambilnya rambutnya dijadikan sumbu pelita. Pada keesokkannya matanya yang buta telah celik. Allah kurniakan keramat (kemuliaan pada perempuan itu kerana memuliakan dan menghormati suaminya).


41. Pada suatu ketika di Madinah, Rasulullah s.a.w. keluar mengiringi jenazah. Baginda dapati beberapa orang wanita dalam majlis itu. Baginda lalu bertanya, "Adakah kamu menyembahyangkan mayat?" Jawab mereka,"Tidak" Sabda Baginda "Seeloknya kamu sekelian tidak perlu ziarah dan tidak ada pahala bagi kamu. Tetapi tinggallah di rumah dan berkhidmatlah kepada suami nescaya pahalanya sama dengan ibadat-ibadat orang lelaki.


42. Wanita yang memerah susu binatang dengan 'Bismillah' akan didoakan oleh binatang itu dengan doa keberkatan.


43. Wanita yang menguli tepung gandum dengan 'Bismillah', Allah akan berkatkan rezekinya.


44. Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir akan mendapat pahala seperti meyapu lantai di Baitullah.


45. "Wahai Fatimah, untuk setiap wanita yang mengeluarkan peluh ketika membuat roti, Allah akan membinakan 7 parit di antara dirinya dengan api neraka, jarak di antara parit itu ialah sejauh langit dan bumi."


46. "Wahai Fatimah, bagi setiap wanita yang memintal benang, Allah akan mencatatkan untuknya perbuatan baik sebanyak utus benang yang dibuat dan memadamkan seratus perbuatan jahat."


47. "Wahai Fatimah, untuk setiap wanita yang menganyam akan benang dibuatnya, Allah telah menentukan satu tempat khas untuknya di atas tahta di hari akhirat."


48. "Wahai Fatimah, bagi setiap wanita yang memintal benang dan kemudian dibuat pakaian untuk anak-anaknya maka Allah akan mencatatkan baginya ganjaran sama seperti orang yang memberi makan kepada 1000 orang lapar dan memberi pakaian kepada 1000 orang yang tidak berpakaian."


49. "Wahai Fatimah, bagi setiap wanita yang meminyakkan rambut anaknya, menyikatnya, mencuci pakaian mereka dan mencuci akan diri anaknya itu, Allah akan mencatatkan untuknya pekerjaan baik sebanyak helai rambut mereka dan memadamkan sebanyak itu pula pekerjaan jahat dan menjadikan dirinya kelihatan berseri di mata orang-orang yang memerhatikannya."


50. Sabda Nabi s.a.w. : "Ya Fatimah barang mana wanita meminyakkan rambut dan janggut suaminya, memotong misai dan mengerat kukunya, Allah akan memberi minum akan dia dari sungai-sungai serta diringankan Allah baginya sakaratul maut dan akan didapatinya kuburnya menjadi sebuah taman daripada taman-taman syurga dan dicatatkan Allah baginya kelepasan dari api neraka dan selamatlah ia melintas Titian Shirat."


51. Jika suami mengajarkan isterinya satu masalah akan mendapat pahala 80 tahun ibadat.


52. Wanita yang menyebabkan suaminya keluar dan berjuang ke jalan Allah dan kemudian menjaga adab rumahtangganya akan masuk syurga 500 tahun lebih awal daripada suaminya, akan menjadi ketua 70,000 malaikat dan bidadari dan wanita itu akan dimandikan di dalam syurga, dan menunggu suaminya dengan menunggang kuda yang dibuat daripada yakut.


53. Semua orang akan dipanggil untuk melihat wajah Allah di akhirat, tetapi Allah akan datang sendiri kepada wanita yang memberati auratnya iaitu memakai purdah di dunia ini dengan istiqamah.


54. Dunia ini adalah perhiasan dan sebaik-baik perhiasan ialah wanita (isteri) yang solehah.


55. Salah satu tanda keberkatan wanita itu ialah cepat perkahwinannya, cepat pula kehamilannya dan ringan pula maharnya (mas kahwin).


56. Sebaik-baik wanita ialah wanita (isteri) yang apabila engkau memandang kepadanya ia menggirangkan engkau, jika engkau memerintah ditaatinya perintah engkau (taat) dan jika engkau berpergian dijaga harta engkau dan dirinya.


57. Dunia yang paling aku sukai ialah wanita solehah.