Wednesday, November 5, 2008

desperately in need of an opinion...

dear kenkawan aku yg baik ati... im seriously in confusion sekarang nih and i would really2 appreciate anyone's take in this.

its about my pregnancy- the delivering part.

background
i underwent surgery for aqish- bukan sbb die besau (even she is a BIG baby time tu 3.95kg ok??) tapi kene emergency c-sect sbb she pooped inside me. reason dr cakap because baby stress, placenta da tertanggal.. so, i didnt know kalau i waited for normal that day, boleh go thru ke tak... (ade some of my frens kate nasib baik c-sect sbb nanti kalau sangkut, i had to endure 2 kesakitan.. but.. they're not doctors too.. heheh)
anyway, giving birth was easy peasy tapi the after tu yg i simply dont think i can go thru it again. rase sangat helpless. nak bangun susah, nak tidur susash, nak pee susah, berak apa tah lagi. cant cough, cant laugh etc etc.. and i still have the bump in my tummy (sbb xleh urut bagai..)

my current condition
my EDD is supposed to be 17th Nov 08. tapi my last visit to dr intan last sunday (2nd nov 08), my baby now weighs 3.8kg! (and i have 1 week to go?????). so, dr intan suggested me not to go to work fro the time being and plan for me to revisit her this friday.. to be induced, most likely...

my dilemma
1- Should i just go thru the inducing thing?
aku dgr ia adalah sakit, anybody know how sakit it is? Furthermore, aku actually dont want to force busyra to keluar kalau belum tiba masa die nak keluar. im no god, manala aku tau whether she is really2 ready to enter the world kan..??
2- Tunggu je visit this friday and kalau baby da macam at least 50/50 normal and c-sect, better aku tunggu je keluar when she feels rite? aku kalau boleh (sgt kalau boleh-every time prayers, mesti aku doa sungguh2 kat Allah utk bersalin normal...hmmmm what do i know what's best for me kan?). Ikan x kesah either way, cume, kalau c-sect lagi, then the possibility utk anak ramai tu kureng sket.. i think tu je concern die (me too).

aku camni, kalau bleh aku nak bsalin kat serdang. sbb bleh terus pantang kat serdang. my dad isnt doing that well, so aku xnak bebankan mak aku plak with my condition. she doesnt like to cook kalau my dad is sick, so kalau aku kat seremban, nanti she has to cook and aku just dont like giving her that condition. tambah plak kalau kene urut, nak kene anta jemput tukang urut la.. hmmm susah je aku pikir...
kalau bersalin kat serdang, then aku kene tunggu je la bila baby nak kuar. then bedah or not, lain kire. (btw, bedah kat hosp serdang ade negative remarks ke sebelum nih?- takut je tetibe die suh emergency lagi.. ohh tidak!!!)
kalau bsalin kat columbia seremban, i have the comfort of my totally-trusted gynae dr intan. BUT.. susah nak travel balik serdang. aku x nak susahkan my parents.

hmm.. writting this made me realise yg i shud just wait bile2 busyra nak kuar.. lantaklah kalau kene bedah ke x eh? hmmm.. aku sgt x suke mase pantang die kalau bedah.. camne????

weh kenkawan (yg da ade anak or not..) i need u guys nye opinin. seriously. apa aku nak cakap kat dr intan friday nih????

6 comments:

Azury said...

Dah 3.8kg ke? Nampaknye Busyra is going to be a big baby macam Aqish jugak... :)

Anyway, about the induce thing... I was induced masa bersalin Nafis. Went to the hospital sebab keluar darah. Sampai hospital the nurse broke the waterbag, then bagi IV drip. I guess the drip kot yg buat contraction suddenly sgt kerap & kuat. Memang sakit, tapi tak byk beza sgt dgn contraction without the drips masa bersalin Dania. (COntraction will always be painful, fullstop.)

To tell u the truth, masa tu aku tak tau pun aku kena induce. My only concern is to get the baby out!

I guess if Dr Intan suggest kau induce Jumaat ni, dan kau masih rasa waswas, there's still time to get a second opinion from another doctor kan?

Hope everything goes well for you. By the way, sape nak jaga kau if you stay in serdang?

aisyah said...

insyaAllah mak kedah dtg jaga. aku takut dr intan tu suggest sebab aku yg beriye sgt nak bersalin normal. tapi aku rase aku nak tanye die friday nih.. kalau bleh aku nak bersalin bile sampai tanda and bukan sebab aku menggatal nak kuarkan baby.. macam aqish dulu, aku terpakse bedah sbb die dah berak.. aku xnak la sesuke ati aku je nak kuakan baby nih..
thanks a lot azury. it helps.

asmasalleh said...

kite induce both amirul & atiqah.. sbb overdue 2 weeks. (kedua2nya).
Makanya pengalamanku adalah induce semata2. Dia akan bagi masukkan pil utk lembutkan serviks. Pastu bila start drip baru la ada rasa contraction. Sakit.. mmg sakit kot. Tapi rasanya sakit nak bersalin mmg cenggitu. Induce tuh cume nak bagi pertolongan percepatkan contraction & opening serviks (erh.. nih opinion bkn doktor) heheh.

Not to worry insya Allah semuanya ok. Take care!

napish said...

Well, i have no experience in induce ni la kan..tapi aku rasa klu ko opt for normal delivery, selamba je lah jumaat ni...by this time baby pun dah actually ready untuk keluar kan...anyway, sakit induce ke x induce ke still sakit juga...asalkan lps beranak x sakit ok la kan (insya-Allah)
Syah, kau buat la istikharah, mohon petunjuk dariNya...that's the best kot

p/s: 2 weeks before beranak, Qaisara weighted 3.8kg tapi bila keluar 3.65kg...meaning kengkadang x tepat jugak..ko doa jelah condition bushra cam qaisara :)

Adinina said...

Salam Kak Ecah,
found your blog from Nannoor's.

Since you asked for opinion, ni my pendapat yg tak seberapa. My case for 1st baby dulu was the same like yours, fetal distress,dia buang air dlm perut hence emergency csect. But what made it worst was my baby had meconium aspiration. Pendek citer, dia survived Alhamdulillah.

Nyway, just to let u know, induce may or MAY NOT cause you to deliver. (Refer to Nannoor's case, which at the end, she also had c-sect after 2X induced but tak gak fully dilated).

Jadi sy rasa baik akak tunggu je la bile2 Busyra nak kuar, cumanye be EXTRA CAREFUL if you suspect baby dah berak (e.g in my case, she suddenly moved less). Takot kena meconium aspiration like my baby.

Ok take care.

-Nina, a.k.a Rahimah (pun bukan doc!Hahah!)

aisyah said...

thanks korang for the comments.

im gonna take ur istikharah la noori. apsal aku x terpikir ntahla..

pray for me guys.. if i dont update my blog by saturday, you know what happened la.. but im still praying kasi busyra bagi sign nak kuar sendiri...(kot2 la mlm ni.. hahahah)

anyways, thanks again.

ps: nina, lamanye x dengar khabar.. nice to hear fr u~